BLOG AND PUBLICATIONS
Tune in for articles and appearances on love, sex, relationship, womb-loss, and grief integration.
Abortion Privacy
“I’m even afraid to tell my therapist.”
Ten Years Later
Mother Magic
I’ve been stewing about maternal power of creation, and the way the powers-that-be relentlessly co-opt it. I want to speak to the depth of creative maternal power without flinching.
3-21
It’s ok and normal to carry a pregnancy and raise a child with T21, and it’s ok and normal to decide to end a pregnancy after a diagnosis of T21. Inclusion is honoring the wisdom of different paths forward for the same diagnosis.
Subsequent Pregnancy
My trauma therapist specialized in combat veterans. When I told him my story, he leaned in close and observed: “Getting pregnant again is like coming home from war, turning around, and getting right back on the plane to Nam. You’re back in the jungle.”
What’s a Sex Coach?
What Does Sex Have to Do with It?
It is the norm, not the exception, to blame the body for a dead or never-was baby. I venture to say it is a universal part of this experience. And where, where in the body does our ire fall the hardest? Breasts. Belly. Womb. Vagina.
On my baby’s ashes
We are all made of earth stuff and star stuff. We build our cells out of atmosphere and recycle other once-living bodies into ourselves. Water goes through the cycle, ocean to vapor to cloud to rain, and washes down the world over. Even in the driest desert, the water swirls in the air and squeezes out under the pressure of night to make scant dew.
What is VITA Method?
When a feeling wells up, and you say, “but I shouldn’t feel this way” or “Anger doesn’t help” or, “I have nothing to be ashamed of.” But no amount of very good sense ever talks away the fire in your throat or the pit in your stomach. Somatics helps us unravel these pieces on their own terms.
Podcasts & publications
Publications:
TS Mendola’s Substack Interview, 2023
Podcast appearances:
10 With Yinh Soverignty episode
Amanda Testa, Finding Your Feminie Fire Abortion, infertility, and pleasure after loss
Navigating Babyloss with Jennifer Senn Ep #22
Confidence After Dark with Alexia: how to handle grief and babyloss in your marriage
The Women’s Table: Let’s Talk About Abortion with Tina Keyzer-van-Bruggen